Are these inappropriate to wear to a wedding?
I haven’t been to very many weddings. Including mine, I think I’ve been to .. 4. One when I was 7 (I was the most petulant flower girl ever), then one before and one after my wedding. That’s it. Most of my friends are either perpetually single, happily unmarried, or were married before I came into the picture. Since I don’t exactly have a firm grasp on this “etiquette” thing, I thought I’d pose the question to the internet at large: purple chucks for a formal occasion. Yay or nay?
It’s not really all THAT formal – in fact, unless someone comes screaming back at me saying that I’m the devil for considering anything less than 4” stiletto heels, I’ll probably stick to my chucks. I’m actually more concerned I’m going to clash terribly – I’ve been told the wedding colours are “sea foam green, pale pink and pale yellow”. I’m planning on wearing my pink/purple/white floofy dress with a short denim jacket, the above mentioned purple chucks, and a purple scarf (for those of you who went to Miranda’s birthday, it’s that outfit). I will not fit in. I mean, I never fit in anyway – I sort of stand out like a round, brightly coloured thumb – but, you know, I could at least *try*.
I am nervous about this whole thing. My nerves are manifesting themselves as concern over my shoes, but really I know why I’m being so neurotic about it all: we’re going to a family function, and family functions freak me right the fuck out.
I don’t know how to act in these situations. I’m fiercely aware of being the outsider even though no one ever does anything to make me feel like that – everyone is really nice, it’s just my own brain that keeps pointing out “hey, you’re different!” like it’s bad or something (for the record, I love different). I think if I had to narrow down my anxiety, it would be the small talk – Ed and I go long stretches of time without seeing these people, and when we do, they want to *talk* to us. I don’t talk well. I have a very hard time making conversation with people I don’t know well, family or not. All I want to do is hide in a corner, but since it’s a wedding and Ed’s in it, I should probably be social and I don’t *do* social and people will talk to me and I will feel weird and then there’ll be hugging and AHHHHH.
Hopefully there will be a large plant I can hide behind.
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As with most events… “depends on the wedding”. :)
I say go for it. Nobody’s supposed to be paying attention to you, anyway. There’s a wedding going on!
Different is good! It’s why we all like hanging out with you and Ed. :o)
Doooooooo it.
I think those shoes are the bees knees.
For what it’s worth, I wore purple chucks to my wedding. Well, I changed into them during the reception after most of the guests had left, but I did in fact wear them with my wedding dress.
I say wear the chucks. Be comfortable. Be happy. Be confident in your uniqueness. Also, unless you are in the wedding you don’t need to even consider matching or complimenting the colors. Just don’t wear all black. I hear that’s considered poor form.
My wedding was pretty formal, and I wouldn’t have noticed if anyone had shown up in pretty purple chucks (hey, someone might’ve and I just have no idea).
I say go forth and wear what pleases you. I’m assuming the people who invited you know you and expect you to be kimli in all her chuck-taylored glory anyhow.
I say get some Vans, instead!
Wasn’t it King Missile who said that they want to be different, just like everybody else? :)