final fantasy xxx

I find myself in a situation I honestly never thought I’d be in, and I’m at a loss.

What do you do when your partner asks you to do kinky stuff that is WAY outside your comfort level?

The way I see it, there are really only three options here:

  • Suck it up and hope for the best and maybe it won’t be as bad as you fear
  • Explain that you don’t want to kink shame, but you are super not comfortable with the request
  • Try to find a compromise that you can live with

Ed and I recently swapped fantasies when we ran out of other things to talk about. My own fantasies are pretty predictable – oh my where did all these dicks come from, whatever shall I do – but Ed really surprised me with his. It’s .. unconventional, to say the least. I really don’t want to embarass or kink shame him, but I also feel it’s important that you understand where my discomfort is coming from.

Ed has asked me to wear more clothes around the house.

Of all the fantasies he could possibly have had, I never once expected this. It was certainly not a topic in any of the sex education books I read in my youth, and there were no pamphlets on the subject I could order online. Government-written booklets on rimming, sure. How to give blow jobs, definitely. Full-colour brochures with guidelines for gas mask use and breath play? Flipbooks showing how to put on a condom? Both are among my most prized posessions. This, though .. this is next level stuff.

After Ed shared his deepest, darkest desire, there was an uncomfortable silence. My mind was going a thousand kilometres a minute, trying to think of something to say. Trying to figure out how that would even work. I don’t want to sound squeamish, but that particular sex act really does nothing for me – in fact, it’s kind of a turn off. And I know it shouldn’t, but it makes me wonder about the kind of porn he’s been watching. Again, I’m predictable – dicks everywhere – but what has Ed been looking at? Fashion shows? Clothing catalogues? God, does he compare me to the fully-dressed women he sees and wish I looked more like them?

I know there’s a solution to be had that allows Ed to have his fantasty of living with someone who wasn’t naked all the damn time AND allow me to keep my dignity, but I can’t for the life of me figure out how to handle it (no pun intended). And what if I decide I just can’t? Will he just go off and find someone else; someone who wears clothing around the clock? Even to BED? Is this how affairs start?

I am way outside my comfort zone.

I guess I’ll start by stretching?

hutterite-womens-clothing

another unrealistic beauty standard i could never hope to meet.

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